Go the *bleep* to sleep (or why you need to find humor in the chaos of parenting)

Most people have heard of this book.  Hell, it’s a bestseller and held Amazon’s #1 sales spot. Go the Fuck to Sleep is now hitting some controversy.

Seriously, folks? Do you have nothing better to complain about in this world than a silly book for parents? Now, granted, I have a bit of a soft spot for books like this.  I love books.  I love humor.  I love hearing certain deep-voiced men say the word fuck.  (It was read by Mr. Samuel L. Jackson.)  I love knowing that there are other parents out there who go through the same torture at bedtime when the Mr. McStallsALot comes down that one more time to say, “But, but, but…. I just wanted to tell you I love you.”

I love my kids.  Anyone who desires to own a book like this does, too.  No, it is NOT a children’s book, and anyone who would think this is an appropriate bedtime story needs to freaking try raising a child for a bit.  Why would you ever give a kid more ideas on how to stall?

Owning this book does not make you a child abuser any more than owning a light saber makes you a Jedi.  Sorry to both my husband and my children on that front.

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Poly Parents

I am poly and I am a parent. It is a scary tightrope to walk at times, but there are plenty of other moments when I am sure that I am offering up a unique, but very worthwhile family for my children.

Knowing that my two boys have a wider support network than they would otherwise (given lack of blood relatives in the area) helps to solidify my choice to introduce and embrace other romantic partners in the lives of my domestic household. Seeing them build legos with my boyfriend, play animal rummy with my husband’s girlfriend, ask who is coming over that night – each and every night, and getting, “ahhh, why not?” when we tell them no one is coming over that evening…. It helps to prepare me for the day when they may question more greatly why I live the life I do.

To my sons:
I am happy having so many people love you. I get joy from seeing you play and laugh with the other adults in my life… knowing you have more people to care for you and love you than you would without my choices to live on one of the edges of accepted relationship structures.

Each family is different. Some kids have one parent, some are raised by grandparents, some are gifted knowing they are chosen by their parents. Your family is different, too… but I can promise, you’ll always be loved.

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… life’s too short to be bored

I’ve been on a whirlwind recently.  Tornadoes have quite literally plopped themselves down in the midst of my life(no personal damage was withstood, but neighbors did not fare so well).

And in terms of the arts scene, I’ve been going full force, too… with all sorts of fun people.

But, I did miss my kids.

1 – Dinner at Montgomery BBQ, followed by Greenacres Under the Stars (with a Cincincinnati Symphony Quintet playing and an art show.)

2 – Yellow Springs Street Festival – with my boyfriend and my local metamour (highlight: we paid a dollar to chew a piece of gum and put it on a wall); followed by a stop at the Rockin’ Green Tomato Festival; followed by Bridesmaids with hubby, local metamour, boyfriend, and two other friends.

3 – A Sunday brunch munch with a bunch of kinksters.

4 – A viewing of a property, to see if boyfriend wants to make a go of a new business plan, followed by sushi with a group of friends.

5 – A viewing of Neil Patrick Harris in Sondheim’s “Company” (a Broadway performance taped and played in a local theater) with the poly clan.

6 – Downtown Cincinnati and a stay at the Cincinnatian – with my husband and the long-distance metamour (including a carriage ride highlighting historical elements of Cincinnati and a kick-ass dinner at Napa).

6a – (Return of the kids to the house)*

7 – Rigoletto at the Cincinnati Opera at Music Hall.  This was a fantastic show – both for the performers and some people watching.  I need to learn to suck it up and ask those two women and a man if they’re a triad.  ‘Cause there were cute!

8 – D & D followed by a showing of Green Lantern.  Perhaps it was that our theater’s sound was hellishly loud, but kids didn’t do as well with this one as I thought they would have

*Now I can't get 'Return of the Mack' out of my head.
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What I am glad for….

A family that is unlike any I ever could have hoped for.

  • a husband of nearly 10 years
  • two adorable boys
  • a beloved boyfriend who helps with any aspect of my life I request
  • a local metamour who reminds me what it is to have a girl friend
  • a distant metamour who reminds me what it is to be gracious and giving


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